Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love-Based Approach to Helping Attachment-Challenged Children With Severe Behaviors |
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Binding: PaperbackEAN: 9780977704002 Edition: 1st ISBN: 0977704009 Label: Beyond Consequences Institute, LLC Manufacturer: Beyond Consequences Institute, LLC Number Of Items: 1 Number Of Pages: 144 Publication Date: February 10, 2006 Publisher: Beyond Consequences Institute, LLC Studio: Beyond Consequences Institute, LLC Related Items:
Editorial Review: Product Description: Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control covers in detail the effects of trauma on the body-mind and how trauma alters children's behavioral responses. The first four chapters help parents and professionals clearly understand the neurological research behind the basic model given in this book, deemed, 'The Stress Model.' While scientifically based in research, it is written in an easy to understand and easy to grasp format for anyone working with or parenting children with severe behaviors. The next seven chapters are individually devoted to seven behaviors typically seen with attachment-challenged children. These include lying, stealing, hoarding and gorging, aggression, defiance, lack of eye contact, and yes, even a chapter that talks candidly about how parents appear hostile and angry when they work to simply maintain their families from reaching complete states of chaos. Each of these chapters talks in depth on these specific behaviors and gives vivid and contrasting examples of how this love-based approach works to foster healing and works to develop relationships, as opposed to the fear-based traditional attachment parenting approaches that are being advocated in today's attachment field. The authors end with a Parenting Bonus Section: true testimonials from parents who have been able to make significant changes in their homes with this model of parenting, giving real-life examples of how they have been able to find the healing, peace, and love that they had been seeking prior to working through the techniques outlined in this book. Average Rating:
 Rating:  - Extremely HelpfulThis book opened my eyes to why consequences don't work with some children, and actually serve to exacerbate the problems. In implementing the changes in this book I've seen immediate improvement in behavior and in home life. Highly recommend even if you don't have the diagnosis of Attachment Disorder. I can see this book helping a wide range of problems. Rating:  - Really?I have worked with children with severe emotional and behavioral problems for 15 years in several capacities. While I agree the root cause of most of their behavior is fear and that unconditional love is a necessity for them, I also have found that children need boundaries, limits and consequences (logical and natural) to learn and thrive. The lack of emphasis on the later completely turned me off this book. Rating:  - Not what I thought!This book is written for parents/guardians of kids/teens who have been through a traumatic experience, not for parents/guardians of difficult kids/teens, although that is how everything I read about the book before I purchased it led me to believe! I can't say much about the book itself because I have a difficult child, not a child who has experienced a traumatic event. Just wanted everyone else to know EXACTLY who the book was written for before they spent their money on it! Rating: - Totally bias and false in regards to traditional RAD therapy!My husband I adopted three girls from the Ukraine 3 yr ago and sought help w/ RAD after the girls were w/ our family 6mo. We had 4 bio kids and these girls were in between the ages of the others falling at 6, 9 and 13 when we adopted them. We were finally able to get RAD counseling w/ a wonderful group hand trained by Nancy Thomas out of CO and went to their seminars, attended their counseling and read over 10 books that were referred to us all in the traditional view of RAD therapy. The way Beyond Logic... describes traditional therapy is full of falsehoods and is never what we experienced in the year we attended the counseling, information from the seminar or books we read! We are offended that they would describe the type of counselors and parents who use the traditional view as harsh, controlling and out to break the child into cruel submission causing the child more trauma in their life. We would have never had subjected our children or ourselves to the type of counseling they say happens w/ tradational views. This book claims to be biblically based, but doesn't portray that at all describing how there should be not even a mention of lying or stealing until hours or days later once it occurs! Well according to the books claims, won't that stress the child out cause them to return to their "fear" state when later discussing their behaviors? This book has other areas where it contradicts itself as well as biblical teaching. We exprienced loving, nuturing, bonding, attachment therapy w/ playing, holding, games and talking a traditional RAD counselor integrating natural consequences. This is the way the real world opperates as well as the way the bible teaches us. After all, why would Christ of had to die for us if all of our behaviors came from our past fears and should be excused away and they could mended w/ just love and reassurance especially the love and reassurance of eternal life from our heavenly father which is the purest and most precious of all! Rating: - Beyond Con,logicic and controlI have only read 1/2 so far ,but i am very impressed. Adoptive mother of a girl adopted at the age of 12years. It talks about all the issues related to attachement issues, eg lying, stealing , control and lack of consequences by your child. I love how it gives tradtional attachment views and a new alternative view. Personally it has given me the out look to decrease my reactions and stress levels to my every day ( the above world). and i have only read 1/2 kerry ,Australia Browse for similar items by category: Click to Display |
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